但它绝不是平庸。平庸的女人没有太大的能力，只是平凡地生活着。然而，淡定的女人却有着较高的修养，她们有能力争取自己想要的一切，却不完全看重这一切。 
淡定的女人都是充满智慧的。她们不会等待着幸福降临，而是主动去追求自己想要的东西，努力为自己创造快乐的生活;她们清楚地认识到理想和现实的差距，所以不会好高骛远、缘木求鱼，也不会爱慕虚荣、盲目攀比。她们只追求自己认定的幸福，简单陕乐，"不以物喜，不以己悲"。
淡定的女人不会在爱情中迷失自我，爱的时候会深爱，不爱的时候会果断离开。在婚姻中，她们也不苛求完美，知道如何用爱拴住彼此的心，也知道该给对方多大的空间来保持彼此的自由，
淡定的女人渴望的是一份默默的情感，无声却有着深厚的穿透力，不需要言语的承诺，只要专注的眼神；不要火红的玫瑰，只要一杯清茶。她们内心坚信，女人的幸福不在于奢华，而在于简单平凡。 淡定的女人在工作上认真投人，尽量做到最好，对上不会唯唯诺诺，对下也不会挑剔万分，她们视荣誉为过眼云烟，冷眼旁观勾心斗角。人们常说："有人的地方就有江湖。"淡定的女人可以避江湖之险，因为她们看淡了得失。 如果问你，
淡定的女人有一份坚强和韧性，在生命的旅途中，无论遇到多大的风雨和挫败，她们都能够从容面对。或许她们会流泪，但是哭过就算了，还会鼓起勇气继续赶路。;人生只有一次，本书能帮您获得开启那扇指导自己、改变命运的大门，摒弃无谓的烦恼和杂念，在启迪和思索中体悟淡定的真谛，如果说凡事皆淡定，未免有些不现实。但是，每个女人都应该通过自身的感悟、修炼，不断地追求淡定、接近淡定; 
最后，希望每位女性朋友都能够拥有一份淡定的生活态度，在平凡的人生中流光溢彩。
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